Anger Management

Is anger a problem for you?

Answer the following questions honestly:

  1. Do you get angry or annoyed more frequently than others?
  2. Have you done stupid or violent things in anger?
  3. Has anyone (e.g. a friend or partner) ever said you have an anger problem?
  4. Would you describe yourself as ‘short-tempered’?

If you answered yes to ANY of the above, you could benefit from anger-management. If you answered yes to several of the above, you could strongly benefit from anger management!

You may be someone who feels angry or resentful a lot, inside, but rarely expresses it. For some, anger is something that flies under the radar—never out of control, but no less toxic.

Some would hesitate to describe themselves as ‘angry’, but frequently find themselves frustrated, impatient, tetchy…

Whatever type or form of anger you experience, and to whatever degree, I believe we can all benefit from an examination of the things that make us angry.

I have devoted more than a decade to anger research and treatment, which has become my area of specialisation, not to say my obsession(!) If you’re interested in my thoughts on anger and anger management, you can read some of my articles on the topic, mostly from Psychology Today, or purchase my first book on anger, The Anger Fallacy.

What do I do for anger? The very first thing I do is listen. I want to know what makes you angry, what the patterns are, whether there are themes to your anger, and what seem to be the convictions and expectations that underlie your anger. And I’m interested to track and monitor your anger systematically, not only for assessment purposes, but so that you yourself can become more detached and self-aware in the process. Once we’re clear on what’s making you angry, my task is two-fold: first to persuade you that anger is doing you no favours, that whatever hidden or hypothesised benefits you believe it holds in your life are likely fallacious or overblown. And secondly, to convince you into softening your angry judgments and demands in favour of a more accurate and adaptive worldview.